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Jealous Girlfriends

I used to be a jealous girlfriend, I’m ashamed to admit. Unfortunately, my jealousy destroyed an otherwise healthy relationship. It was then that I realized that I needed to do something about it. If you are facing jealousy issues, this article is for you. A little jealousy is normal, a lot is a huge problem and I promise you, that it’s wreaking havoc on your relationship. Let’s look at the signs of jealous girlfriends, the common causes, and what you can do about it.

Signs of Jealous Girlfriends

- You frequently accuse your boyfriend of wanting a woman who he may have glanced at in passing or had a casual conversation with.

- You read your boyfriends emails, listen to his phone messages, or go through his wallet without him knowing.

- You show up where you boyfriend is when he’s out with his friends or call him non-stop for no reason.

- You accuse your boyfriend of cheating, even when you have little or no evidence that he is.

- You frequently question him and/or his friends about things that they’ve done.

- You keep close tabs on your man. You time how long it takes him to get to your house, you call and text him all the time to check where he is, etc.

- You start fights over minor things, get angry about female friend that he has, and generally feel insecure all the time about your relationship.

Common Causes of Jealousy

Chances are that you didn’t get jealous overnight. You weren’t born that way, so it’s pretty likely that something happened to you to make you jealous. Maybe you had an ex-boyfriend (or three!) that cheated on you. That’s a pretty big deal and it makes sense that you are suspicious of all men. But maybe the reason for your jealousy isn’t that obvious. You may have to think a bit harder about what’s causing you to be a jealous girlfriend. Take some time to think about your past and what may be causing your feelings.

- Did you dad cheat on your mom?

- Did you have a poor relationship with your dad or another important male in your life?

- Were you betrayed by a male in your life?

- Do you have abandonment issues because of something that happened in your past?

If you are having issues with jealousy, it’s important that you work to get to the root of what’s causing it. There’s no way you’re going to “fix” it if you can’t figure out what’s causing it.

What to do about Jealous Girlfriends Syndrome

If you want a healthy, long-lasting relationship, it’s imperative that you work through what’s making your jealous. Assuming that your current guy hasn’t cheated on you or given you a reason to be jealous, the first thing you have to do is realize that your jealousy is your problem, and not that of your boyfriend. That means that you need to work through it.

Start by making a commitment not to accuse your boyfriend anymore. If you have feelings of jealousy, talk to a girlfriend or a trusted friend instead.

If you feel your issues are serious, make it a priority to get professional help. Extreme jealousy will eventually ruin the relationship that you’re in and every future relationship that you have so it’s well worth your time and money.

If your relationship is serious, talk to your boyfriend about your jealousy, openly and honestly. Explain to him what you think is causing it and ask for his help in getting over it.

Make a commitment to yourself not to look through his personal items anymore. It’s an invasion of his privacy. Making the choice not to snoop is the first step in getting past your jealousy. You may still feel jealous, but at least you’ve decided not to act on it without reason!

There are a lot of great resources to help you deal with your jealousy. If you are part of the jealous girlfriends club, I highly recommend looking into some of the following books to help you understand and deal with your feelings. They don’t only hurt your relationship, they hurt you too! It’s no fun to feel jealous all the time.

Romantic Jealousy: Causes, Symptoms, Cures: A great book that will help you understand what’s making your jealous and what you can do about it.

If This Is Love Why Do I Feel So Insecure?: A book that focuses on in-depth studies to explain why we act in ways that cause our relationships to fail.

Broken Promises, Mended Hearts : Maintaining Trust in Love Relationships: A great book if you are working through infidelity in your current relationship.

If you have issues with jealousy, don’t feel alone – many, many women face these same issues. If you are aware that you have a problem, there are many things you can do about it.

If you’ve worked through jealousy or are still working through it, share your experiences with us. We all learn from each other!

Originally posted 2009-01-24 23:18:19. Republished by Blog Post Promoter