MY LIL RED DRESS

Have you broken up with the love of your life and are looking for a way to get him back? Do you feel sick over a recent break up? Breaking up isn’t fun – in fact, it’s pretty darn painful and many people wish that they could go back and change things, or to reverse the break up all together. The question is – is it possible? And if it is – is it the right thing to do? Read on to learn how to get your boyfriend back, and to decide if that’s what you really want to do.

Before you go begging your boyfriend to take you back (you shouldn’t beg ever!), decide if being together is really what you want.

~ First, think back to your relationship. Were you mostly happy or were you fighting all the time? If you spent most of the time miserable, it may not be a relationship that’s worth saving. On the other hand, if you spent most of your time happy with one another, then it may be worth working out. If you aren’t sure, ask some of your friends to tell you how happy you were in your relationship – they may have a completely different outlook than you do!

~ Look at the direction that both of your lives are going. If you are going in completely different directions, then it’s possible that you are each better off on your own. For example, if you are dead set on having children some day and he never wants to get married, that’s a pretty major difference! You probably don’t believe it now, but you’ll likely be happier on your own than you would be together…just as soon as the initial pain wears off a bit.

~ This should go without saying, but if there was any abuse in your relationship, then it’s not worth repairing, unless one or both parties seek professional help.

If you’ve made it this far and you are still wondering how to get your boyfriend back, then maybe you had something that was worth holding on to.

First, don’t crowd him. Don’t call, don’t send silly text messages, don’t email 500 times a day. Heck, don’t email even once a day. Your mom probably told you that guys like to chase a girl – well, guess what? She was right.

Once you’ve both had some cooling off time, you can work to see if you can get back together. Chances are you know why it is you broke up. Was it because you were too clingy? Do you get jealous over little things? Whatever it was, you are going to have to make some changes if you want things to work better this time around.

If you want all the secrets on how to get your boyfriend back, check out The Magic Of Making Up. It’s an ebook, full of great ideas that you can use to get your boyfriend back. The author guarantees results or will give readers a refund within 60 days of purchase. The best thing is that you can download it right away and get to work on getting your ex back!

Have you broken up and gotten back together? How did you do it? Are you still together today? Share your stories with us and help someone else who is in the position you once were!

Originally posted 2009-02-26 19:16:55. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Getting a Divorce

Take it from someone who has been through it, there is nothing fun about getting a divorce. Perfectly normal people turn into raving lunatics during the process of ending a marriage…and people who weren’t normal to begin with really go off the deep end. Even the most amicable of divorces often cause hard feelings and anger. I’ve often thought that divorce shows the worst side of humanity.

There are plenty of emotional issues associated with getting a divorce, and I don’t want to make light of those, but it’s important to understand that getting a divorce is akin to breaking up a business. Of course, it’s much worse than that because the “business” that’s coming to an end is not just a financial partnership – it’s an emotional partnership and often a parenting partnership as well.

Unless you have no children and no assets, choosing your divorce lawyer is going to be one of the most important decisions that you make. I have a lot of friends who didn’t want a divorce, so instead of choosing a good attorney, they spent all their time trying to save a marriage that was clearly over. Even after knowing that their ex had retained an attorney and was filing papers, they still focused their energies on “working things out.” Do not be one of these people. Maybe you’ll work things out before the divorce is final and get back together, and that’s great – but don’t make your decisions with that assumption or you’ll be really sorry when you get a grossly unfair settlement because you weren’t prepared.

There’s plenty of advice out there on how to choose your divorce lawyer. In my opinion, the most important thing you can do is to choose someone who you feel comfortable with. It’s also extremely important to select an attorney that has experience with situations like yours. For example, if custody is going to be a big issue, find an attorney who has tried a lot of contested custody cases. Don’t be afraid to ask them how many they’ve won. If you and your spouse owned a business, find an attorney with advanced experience in valuation.

The fact is that when you are getting a divorce, there are plenty of people who will be willing to give you advice about choosing an attorney, but in the end, you’ve really got to follow your gut on this one. You are going to have to work closely with this person for some time so you’ll need to make sure that it’s someone you feel comfortable with.

Another important think to consider when choosing your attorney is communication. I’ve heard more complaints from people going through divorces about not being able to get in touch with their attorney than anything else. Before you sign a retainer with any attorney, make sure that you discuss how you’ll communicate and when you can expect to get responses to your questions and issues.

Once you’ve hired your attorney, don’t be afraid to voice your concerns, if you have them. Remember that your attorney is charging you by the hour..actually, by the portion of an hour, so don’t call for small issues. On the other hand, if you have a legitimate concern or question, make sure that feel able to talk to your attorney about it.

Last, when you are getting a divorce, it’s absolutely key that you are honest with your divorce lawyer about every aspect of your divorce. They can not help you if you aren’t being upfront with them.

If you are in the process of ending a marriage, I know how hard it is for you, and I don’t want to sound callous or mean…it’s just that taking care of your financial well-being is that important.

Check back soon – we’ll talk about the emotional ramifications of divorce in a future post.

For additional reading on divorce, check out the following great books:

The Divorce Organizer & Planner: I used this exact planner during my divorce. If you are a person who likes to write things down, this is a GREAT book. It helps you to get all of your information together and to keep it organized.

Your Divorce Advisor : A Lawyer and a Psychologist GuideYou Through the Legal and Emotional Landscape of Divorce: This is a wonderful book written by both an attorney and a psychologist and really hits a lot of the legal and emotional issues that you’ll face during the end of your marriage.

Originally posted 2009-01-25 23:19:09. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

I have a friend that breaks up with her boyfriend what seems like at least once a week. They are constantly breaking up and getting back together. It seems a little ridiculous to me, but it seems to work for them. Sadly, I think that there have got to be issues in their relationship, that unless worked out, will cause them to continue down this path until they eventually break up for good.

Breaking up and getting back together is common among those dating and even among married couples who are toying with the idea of separation and/or divorce.

I think it comes down to the age old, “absence makes the heart grow fonder”

If you’re in a relationship where you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, it may be time to think about why you’re doing it and whether or not it’s really healthy for you.

For example, do you get back together with your boyfriend or husband because you are afraid of being alone? I suspect that’s a pretty common reason for reconnecting after a break up and it’s definitely the WRONG reason.

If you are constantly breaking up and getting back together, are you resolving the problems that caused the break up in the first place? If you constantly fight about one or two major issues but no one ever changes – you are wasting your time. On the other hand, if you are both willing to get help with your problems and are willing to make some changes, then things may work out.

My friend tells me that she gets back together with her boyfriend because she’s been with him so long that she would feel like she had wasted her time if she didn’t give the relationship “one more chance.” I bet that’s pretty common – but it doesn’t really make that much sense. If it’s truly one more chance, that might be okay. When it becomes one hundred more chances, it gets a little out of hand. In my (very humble) opinion, she only started wasting time when she stayed with him after she realized that it probably wasn’t going to work.

For some people, breaking up and getting back together seems to be a part of life. If you’re one of those people, just make sure that you are doing it for the right reasons!

If you’ve been in this position, tell us your story. How many times have your broken up and gotten back together? How did it work out for you? Was your relationship better or did you end up breaking up again?

Originally posted 2009-02-21 02:14:54. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Catch a Cheating Boyfriend

It’s a fact, lots of boyfriends cheat. If you think yours is one of them, it’s best if you find it out before your relationship goes any further than it is right now. Yeah, it’s going to hurt, but it’s better than finding out after you are married with kids. If your gut tells you that something is wrong, chances are good that there is indeed something going on. As women, we typically want to believe the best about those who we love, even though we know, in our heart, that something isn’t right.

The first step to catch a cheating boyfriend is being alert to the signs that something isn’t right. Some signs to look for include:

~ Your boyfriend all of the sudden starts carrying his cell phone with him everywhere he goes. He’ll no longer allow you to touch the phone and will possibly even password protect it so you can’t look at it if he does leave it lying around. The same can be true for the computer.

~ Has your boyfriend all of the sudden started dressing better or working out?

~ Has his sex drive changed? Some guys seem to lose their sex drive, while others want to be intimate with their girlfriend all the time. If you’ve gone from 5 nights a week to 0 or from 0 to 5, there might be a problem.

~ Does he lie about his whereabouts? Has he started having night meetings? Does he have a new set of “friends” that you don’t know? If so, chances are pretty good that he’s cheating on you.

~ If you are getting anonymous calls or hang-ups when you answer your home phone, I hope you’re on high alert.

~ Has be become irritable for no reason? Does he become defensive when you ask simple questions?

Taken alone, each one of these signs could mean nothing. If you’ve been cheated on in the past, or are a jealous person by nature, try not to jump to conclusions. That said, if more than one of these are true and if you’ve got that feeling in your gut that he’s cheating – you’re probably wise to pay attention to it.

The problem is that you’ve invested a lot of time into your relationship and chances are, you don’t want to just walk away. You want proof. You actually want to catch your cheating boyfriend. This is where a lot of woman mess up. Instead of collecting evidence, they confront their boyfriend before they have any evidence.

Unless you’re dating a guy whose really dumb or really honest (which I doubt if you think he’s cheating on you), he’s not likely to admit that he’s been cheating. It just isn’t gonna happen. If you really think you’re being cheated on, your best bet is to stay quiet and to start watching closely.

Here’s how to catch a cheating boyfriend:

~ Do you have access to your boyfriend’s computer? Do you share a computer? Check the history on the computer. If it’s erased after he uses the computer, chances are good that he’s cheating on you. You can install a spy program on your computer to confirm your suspicions.

~ If you are receiving phone calls from unknown numbers or if there are strange phone numbers on his cell phone, use a service such as reverse phone detective to track the telephone numbers.

~ Check his stories to see if they are true. If he tells you that he’s working late, drive past his place of business to see if his car is there. If you think that he’s cheating, it most likely won’t be.

~ If you live with him, pay close attention to his pockets when doing laundry. Look for receipts or other items that show what he’s been doing.

~ If you have a shared bank account or credit card account, pay very close attention to all charges. If he’s cheating, you may very well find unexplained charges.

It’s no fun to catch a cheating boyfriend, but if your gut tells you that something is wrong, then take the time to follow up on your suspicions. Once they are confirmed, things will get worse, because you’ll have to decide what to do about it. More about that later…

Have you every caught your boyfriend cheating? How did you do it? Did you stay together after you caught him?

Originally posted 2009-03-09 00:48:18. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Romantic Valentines Day Dinner

Valentines Day is just around the corner. This year, you may not have the money to celebrate Valentines Day in the way that you normally celebrate it. However, a slow economy is no reason not to show your sweetie how important he is to you.

Instead of going out to dinner, why not plan a romantic Valentines Day dinner at home? There are so many romantic (and fun) things that you can do that you’ll wonder why you ever went out.

In fact, you don’t even have to know how to cook that well in order to have a Valentines day dinner that’s a smashing success.

Start by planning your dinner. What’s your sweetie’s favorite meal? If you can’t come up with anything to make, just search Google for “romantic dinner for two recipe.” You’d be amazed at the ideas that you’ll have to choose from.

The food, though, is actually a very small part of the perfect Valentines Day Dinner. The ambiance is much more important. Make sure that you have candles, fresh flowers, and music. Consider using rose petals to decorate the table.

If roses aren’t part of your budget this year, pick up some construction paper in red, pink, and white. Cut the construction paper into hearts and use them to decorate the table. If you want to get really romantic, write love notes on each of your hearts.

Don’t forget to make dessert. Consider chocolate covered strawberries or chocolate fondue that you can feed to eachother.

After your romantic dinner is over, watch a movie together or give your sweetie a massage, complete with massage oils and candles.

Originally posted 2009-01-20 22:09:58. Republished by Blog Post Promoter